Heart and Haven – the beginning…

Just a few years ago, I was a working mom thriving in a career of software sales.  A few months after the birth of my daughter in 2008, I developed post-partum thyroiditis and was not able to return back to work when my employer expected.  I was devastated.  Having a career in high tech I had enjoyed for more than a decade, and working for the same company for close to five years, I was now starting over.

 Even diligently searching for a new job, no prospects materialized.  I found the adjustment very difficult – from making deals on Wall Street to making pb & j sandwiches.  I had soul-searched and prayed to find contentment in whatever role God wanted for me.  Recently, I re-read the passage in Proverbs 31:10 (the wife of noble character).  It really struck me differently this time!

 Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character (Proverbs 31:10, NIV)
 10 [b]A wife of noble character who can find?
   She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
   and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
   all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
   and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
   bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
   she provides food for her family
   and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
   out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
   her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
   and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
   and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
   and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
   for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
   she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
   where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
   and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
   she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
   and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
   and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
   her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
   but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
   but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
   and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

 I don’t know if this “wife of noble character” was an actual person, qualities a man should look for in a wife, or standards a wife should strive for.  What I do know is, this list of qualities are very hard “job requirements” to be a “wife of noble character”.  I was inspired, to be the best wife and mother I could be, and to learn to be content in whatever role God had for me – even if it meant to be an “@ home” mom.  This is why Heart and Haven was born – to provide me an outlet to journal my shortcomings, growth, and experiences as I’m on this journey.  You’re welcome to join me on this voyage; no passport is required, just an open heart.  I can’t promise smooth sailing along the way, but I do believe it will be a worthwhile and rewarding adventure!

About Tonia

Hi! My name is Tonia. I'm happily married with three great kids - two preschoolers and a teen! With a previous career in software sales, I thrived in my career as a working mom until the birth of my third child. I'm now on a journey to discover how to be content as an "@ home" mom. I've been inspired to become the best wife and mom I can be, where ever that role takes me. I'm eager to try new things, looking for greatness, longing for contentment.
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3 Responses to Heart and Haven – the beginning…

  1. Amanda says:

    I believe it’s both something for a woman to strive to be and what a man should look for in a wife. Either way, an impossible task! That’s why it’s a goal to STRIVE for. :-)

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  3. Stacy says:

    That was beautiful! I absolutely loved reading it. Thank you for sharing this! And thank you for linking up today :)